friendship across sex

Some years ago i introduced a girl to my mother as my friend.She welcomed her and all protocols were duly observed.later that evening, after the lady had left,it was now deliberation time between mama and her husband.jamal's mother was like she wonders what the world was turning to; that how would a boy get tired of male friends and now decide to start having females as friends.she was like what kind of friendship is there between a dog and a tiger if not to kill each other.i just laughed it off and told her she was old school.i told her things like that now happen and there's nothing to it.She replied in a sarcastic manner suggesting am still yet to understand.Reminiscing on that discussion recently i made a statistics of how most of those relationships ended and am still yet to come to a conclusion.i would have used myself as an example but my experiences are few and little to make any scientific or rational conclusion/judgement.
Nevertheless,(based on personal judgement please) i believe the friendship is okay till either of two things happen.1)till one party betrays/offends the other with no good explanation.2)till the emotions of any of the parties run loose and its shown or displayed.other situations may arise but i believe with simple understanding these situations may come under control without them affecting the friendship.From later discussions with jamal's mother and some other mums it was discovered that their greatest reservation about the situation was about 2) above.The first reason would likely destroy any relationship.The second is not likely to destroy most relationship or a same sex friendship.friendship across sex takes more control of emotions than a same sex friendship and i believe thats where the complication comes in.All through the span or lifetime of the relationship more work is needed to hold things together in terms of control than in the same sex pals.Though recently am begining to see things from a different perspective and it has made me to backtrack and try to check for any truth that might exist in the words of these old women.Like i said earlier am still yet to come to a conclusion or a stand or form any theory/principle for or against this position...





The Age Factor: Love, Sex, and Friendship Across the Generations