Speak good or remain silent

Its probably one of the things or sins we consider as minor or inconsequential and its likely it might be the one that may cause a lot of regrets for us. A lot of us take these things as trivial but if every deed will be counted for or against us then i think we need to reconsider our stance on this issue. Sometimes its called or hidden in what the womenfolk refer to as gossip and sometimes its latent too in the gists and discussions of the men
folk. Anything that makes you speak ill of anyone behind their back is usually referred to as backbiting in my faith and it’s really frowned at. Great words are a result of great thoughts and also bad words are results of ill thoughts. We may have our differences and bad feelings may rise but wisdom is displayed if such rifts are taken through the proper channels so as to save we, the offended, from being wronged and still wronging ourselves(double wahala you'll say) all together. I have recently determined that till the end of my days in this life i shall try as much as possible to be better than yesterday in my quest to attain purity of mind which is likely to put me on the same plane as others favored by God. I will therefore try not to think bad, negative or evil of anyone so i shall speak no bad, negative or evil about anyone because as one of the holy books stated...."out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh".
Let us constantly remind ourselves of the little things that matter and that may make the difference. Things that will give us both mental and spiritual balance leading to peace of mind which the foundation of happiness is. After all, apart from backbiting or speaking ill generally affecting our spiritual growth, science has also proven a connection between bad thoughts and the release of toxic hormones into our blood stream which might affect our psychological wellbeing and balance. Let us therefore endeavour to think evil of no one so
that we speak evil of no one. Imbibe forgiveness as a principle or virtue and these things may not be hard. May i also expressly state that saying bad things about people, especially behind their back is a sin hence The Holy Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) was reported to have said,"He who believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him be hospitable to his guest; and he who believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him maintain good the ties of blood relationship;and he who believes in Allah and the Last Day,.......MUST SPEAK GOOD OR REMAIN SILENT".

You never know with Him

I once prayed for a lovely white garment i saw in the window glass. I loved it so much but couldn’t afford it. Apparently a lot of people couldn’t afford it because it was there a long time, just hanging, magnificently and just my exact size. There was nothing i could do except hope and pray i get this dress. I worked hard and prayed, prayed and prayed, all night and day, fasted so many days and at a time i just thought maybe he doesn’t answer prayers anymore. Nothing could be compared to the obsession and love i had for this garment. The most painful fact was that the shop selling this garment was along my way home, in my full glare everyday, yet i was only allowed to look and stare but not even touch not to talk of wear. I came back to town after spending lots of weeks out of home and just as usual passed by the garment shop and to my greatest surprise the white garment was still there but now almost changing to brown. Even the Ram in our farm knows how much i hate a brown garment. I went to the shop owner to ask what happened, he told me the garment was made from a very delicate and sensitive material which accounts for its expensive price and that it goes dark with time either in use or not and either its dry cleaned or not and at the end of the day if you never saw it white you'll believe it was made brown and if you never saw it brown, you will believe it was made black which is its final destination. I thanked the owner and went home. I spent hours of days thanking God for his grace and understanding for i then realized he actually heard all my prayers but just chose to answer it in a way i couldn’t understand because i may not smile or say thank you to no one for giving me a brown garment. Also i think its imperative for me to explicitly show my gratitude to Him for refusing to answer my prayers and for not granting my request because i can’t seem to understand why I’ll be able to afford a more expensive dress which i just got recently and was unable to buy that seemingly white garment for months. Let no wise man cease to pray for he who ceases to pray ceases to prosper. The time, we may not know and the Knowledge, we may not have but one thing i am so certain about is His promise to Answer our prayers for as long as we trust in him alone and increase our charitable acts (good to our fellow man).i once promised and pledged to do these two and i still haven’t changed my mind, all I’m asking for is your grace to do so till the day my heart stops. Even while it seems your prayers are yet to be answered and things are yet to be the way you want them, Never fail to always thank God, the most beneficent, the most merciful and the most wise because you just never know how he answers your prayers and how he does his things....you just never know with Him